We have all been exposed to too many of those morbid moral discourses, and those gruesome defining caricatures, adverse dark fallouts, ominous deliberations, and those horrors of that human emotion we call anger. We see the down side of that emotion in every murky shadow of events from the public ballparks and streets to the privacy of homes. Most all episodes of anger do depict that shaded narrow side of human behavior that responds to a painful restraint; or a segregation and rejection to the point of entrapment; or a challenged position in the corner of that all-purpose no size fits all and with no refunds on ringside tickets event; the one we call life? In most cases it’s not about living the dream by any stretch in any game, but more in line with the final tremors of hopelessness and bleak desperation or retaliation, and the frustration of watching your dreams crumble.
But, again I am going to take a jump off the high dive platform and into that deep and wide pool of controversy; and ask if anger can be a part of a positive stance or attitude; if it can be or possibly be directed and used as energy to achieve optimistic goals?
We can produce all kinds of those pleasant stereotypical athletes’ stories that owe their success to being optimistic, courageous, and thankful; but can we see anger as any kind of a structural building block that concludes with a success story that morally meets the criteria of fair accomplishment? A story about how ones flamboyant anger got them to the big leagues?
I heard a long time ago from an old mentor that, “frustration is the last thing you feel before you give up.” That is when the truth of any hurdle will rise to its greatest elevation and its loftiness may very well trigger disappointment or anger; two very close but different emotions disguised by approximating appearances in my humble opinion. Like the frustration of a failed first kiss and the resulting anger encompassing the disappointment of a dream that put poor Dave Buznik (Adam Sandler) in the care of Dr. Buddy Rydell (Jack Nickolson)--(Anger Management).
So how are we to look at anger? Optimistically with any sanity and without being all that well versed in the art of ‘goosfraba’?
Anger is a very powerful and dangerous emotion when on the loose and out of control, especially when it is fueled by fear. And maybe that’s why we like to associate those intrepid anger free positive thinkers with those happy go lucky free spirits that are tip- toeing through life without a negative ambition or angry thought that could possibly mess up their day and target them for any form of misinterpreted frustration. We have defined those lucky souls to be fearless wishful thinkers, I think?
Let’s try to demonstrate some positive anger and if there was ever a case when anger had any good thing come of it?
What if the British had never ticked off the Colonies? We would all be playing Cricket and Rugby; and cheering-- Tally Ho, as we counted up our wickets instead of runs scored. Those who do not understand the positive side of anger only see anger as that appalling destruction created by those with no goal in stride or purpose. Are they the ones who have already given up and just not became angry about it yet? Fortunately we have the American sport of baseball that got its chance because of the team effort and directed anger of our founding fathers; and the dream of a cooler game than cricket is played here today.
On a more serious line, we do have to rise above our critics, and sometimes a little anger develops a more vigorous path in determination which in many an experience comes the triumph. When the centerfielder snags your deep fly ball just before it clears the 400 foot marker; then shakes his head to let you know – not on my watch; a little anger may be healthy and serve a purpose if it is used to fuel our resolve for another and better resulting sequel in the batter’s box?
Anger may be a positive or a negative? That can only be determined by the context of its use as a fuel and like any emotion we have to control it.
If frustration is the last thing you feel before you give up, then; anger may be that emotion you feel just before you refuse to let frustration hijack your dreams?