Fear is that burden we all share at one time or another, could be a shared or lone process, but it happens.
How do you overcome fear?
Failing makes you worry about how smart or capable you are?
Failing makes you worry about disappointing people whose opinion you value?
You tend to tell people beforehand that you don’t expect to succeed in order to lower their expectations?
Once you fail at something, you have trouble imagining what you could have done differently to succeed?
Fear of failure will keep you up at night, going over eventualities of a dreaded outcome that hasn’t even happened yet; and doesn’t that makes you a predictor of failure and one of those who gets to be that annoying –I told you so—gazer into the crystal ball idiots who never has any skin in the game?
So does fear of failure keep you training hard? Will fear of failure keep you from shirking and cutting corners?
Will fear of failure keep you working, thinking, striving, and relentlessly trying to be more prepared for battles?
So why not be afraid of failing? I fear failing.
But more significantly, I may be perplexed, -- no—terrified—of sitting on the sidelines and doing nothing.
I think we can really spot this carbuncle called fear of failure into another descriptive term, and call it a fear of not winning or competing. Winning takes some effort and that means work.
Dean Smith said this about winning, “Although we didn’t have a system at North Carolina, we certainly had a philosophy. It was our mission statement, our strategic plan, our entire approach in a nutshell: Play hard, play smart, play together.
Hard meant with effort, determination, and courage; together meant unselfishly, trusting your teammates, and doing everything possible not to let them down; smart meant with good execution and poise, treating each possession as if it were the only one in the game.
That was our philosophy; we believed that if we kept our focus on those tenets, success would follow. Our North Carolina players seldom heard me or my assistants talk about winning. Winning would be the byproduct of the process. There could be no shortcuts.
Making winning the ultimate goal usually isn’t good teaching.”
It seems that Smith is saying that the ultimate fear fighter is—trust; trust in yourself and teammates, play like every play may be the last, and whatever comes out of the game is a mere consequence of that combined effort?
So what we really need to be afraid of: is just being stagnant?
Failure is a part of life, but—so is winning, and it takes a lot of trust.